Do you ever get home from the shops or a social gathering feeling completely drained? Not just a bit tired, or even very tired, but drained. Do you feel as if every drop of energy has disappeared and your entire self – body, brain and emotions – needs to recover? This isn’t your imagination and it isn’t you being dramatic. You might have been told that this is an extreme reaction, or you might have suspected it yourself when you were feeling this way, especially if it seems l

We grow up with certain assumptions around us. These assumptions include how we should act, how we should feel, how we should work. That’s a lot of heavy ‘shoulds’. Some things are in place to keep us and those around us safe – like we should look both ways before crossing a road but what about social cues, office politics, education structures? What about all the situations and interactions where everyone seems to have gotten the memo except you? Where’s the social workbook

From the outside it can look like you’re managing – it might even look like you’re managing well. You show up, you respond, you keep things moving. You’re the one who holds things together and nobody ever needs to worry about you. In fact, they lean on you because you’ve always got it together. People see you as reliable, dependable, calm under pressure. You’re the one who just gets on with it and says you’re fine. You don’t make a fuss or create drama about things and you ca